Before you begin reading this, you may want to look up terms such as "Sexual Market Place", "alpha", "beta". These terms are used to deal with the dating scene, sexual matters between males and females, and general interactions between the sexes. A good place to start is Hooking Up Smart created by Susan Walsh. There are a whole lot of other sites that discuss this subject but personally Walsh's site is more well-rounded. But that's just my personal opinion.
There are a few things I've been noticing a while when visiting blogs focusing on the SMP (Sexual Market Place) as it's called in circles and blogs focusing on men's issues. Guys who identify themselves as "beta's" express how upset they are about how eager and how quickly females have sex with "alphas" while with betas, females are less eager and less willing to have sex with them.
My thing is this though. Anytime a woman complains about not being noticed by by guys, other men are quick to say "Oh well, you were (or are) just focusing on the alphas/studs/etc., etc.", basically disregarding her experience. They say that if she, I guess, expand her focus or whatever, that she'll notice more men interested in her. To them, if you are modestly attractive, then it's almost a guarantee that there are guys attracted to you. Simply put, chicks have it easy to them.
But wait a minute...couldn't the same be said for these betas who are upset at the lack of attention they they receive? If they are focusing on only the really attractive girls, I'm sure that the less attractive girls or modestly attractive ones are ignored....girls who may be interested in them, if they would only pay them any attention. It's like a guy who focuses on the "cheerleader" and pays no attention to the "band geek", "the good girl", or "nerd".
There's another way of looking at this too.
Are males and females obligated to consider EVERYONE, absolutely not. If you're not attracted to someone, then you're not attracted to someone. The whole issue seems to be the lack of people you find attractive being attracted to you. Sure there are people out there who are attracted to me...OK. But if I don't find them attractive myself, then most likely it won't go anywhere, especially considering the fact that I am VERY visually oriented when it comes to attractiveness in men (something that's apparently rare in females). So while I think it'd be nice for people to expand their horizons when it comes to attractiveness, people have preferences. But we should realize that when we go strictly with our preferences, we ignore those who may find us attractive who aren't attractive to us.
Well in the end, I think both males and females struggle with being ignored when it comes to the opposite sex. I'm sure guys will say that they have it worse, but I wouldn't be so quick to think that females have it so easy.
In other news....I need to stop taking these big breaks in between posting lol :P